Nov 16, 2009

They Say Things Come in Three's

As if my life hasn't been stressful enough, one more thing has been added to top the cake. Yikes, I feel like such a downer :(

I owe a bunch of you email responses. As you know, I have just not felt up to par emotionally, but I will try to respond back to those who've taken the time to make sure I'm OK.

What's been happening?

WHOPPER NUMBER ONE:

The relationship with JT started going askew at the end of month two. For the next four months, I hoped things would be OK. As time went on, it became apparent he portrayed himself as someone he wasn't. As a male friend puts it "You can't argue with crazy." Crazy referring to JT's actions and statements he's made.


WHOPPER NUMBER TWO:

I had my review a couple weeks ago. The review itself was fine, however my employer informed me that due to lack of work they are cutting my hours to 32/wk (from 40) which equates to a 20% pay cut, starting Feb 1st. The way it sounds, they don't expect the workload to pick up, nor are they seeking it out in our area (My firm has 5 offices). So, that has left me wondering if I can survive on the paycut or if I should look for another job.

In addition, I've done a search online and all the jobs in my pay range require a Bachelors degree which I haven't gotten yet. I didn't want to have to go into debt to finish my degree, but it appears I'll have to.


WHOPPER NUMBER THREE:

Last Friday (Yes, Friday the 13th!), I was on my way home from working in one of the other offices. BLAM! Out of the cornfield came a deer. Yep... I hit the thing and it flung back the way it came. Bambi was done for. The front end of my car has been obliterated and the hood it quite crinkled. :( Thank goodness I didn't cancel the collision portion of my auto insurance like I'd been contemplating a couple weeks ago. Also thankful the car is still driveable. Now comes the repairs... Fun stuff (not).


I know... I know... there are people out there who have it MUCH worse than I do. As the title states, people say things come in three's and I'm hoping this is the end of it. I'm not used to so many stressful things happening at the same time...

41 comments:

too_busy_to_stitch said...

So sorry to hear the turn your life's been taking lately Meari - I hope things get better soon. I'd wondered about JT - what a shame, he was sure putting on a good act :o(

J Rae said...

Meari, I am so sorry to hear about the crazy curves that life has been throwing you. I can so relate. My past year has been absolute madness. The joys of looking for a job!!!

My thoughts are with you. Hope things get better.

valerie said...

So sorry to hear about the recent upheavals. I was wondering what was going on...you hadn't mentioned JT in a while. Hopefully the job thing will work out and the car repair is just temporary. At least the car wasn't totalled. Take care of yourself! *hugs*

Rae Ann said...

Well if it comes in 3's, you should be done! This past year has been somewhat of a roller coaster for me, I don't anticipate it getting any better for some time. My thoughts are with you.

Sheila said...

Sorry to hear about everything. Hoping everything is over and looking up for you now.

Cyndi said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles, I was wondering about your Mr. JT because I didn't notice any great postings of him lately. And at least you can still drive your car. That's a big thing! My darling (?) DD totalled my almost paid off car a few weeks ago now I have to go out and buy another one. Along with job hr cutback too. Sometimes life sucks, but then you get up and make the best of it! Keep on going Meari!! We are pulling for you!

zaneymay said...

Oh, I feel so bad! I didn't even notice anything, except for your last post about something not being right. I hope that these bad times are over for you. Good luck with all the adjustments in your life. Sorry to hear about JT. That is why I always say give it 3 to 6 months to find the real person in side.

Mel said...

*hugs*

Rachel S said...

I am sorry about work and the car. We had a pay cut this spring and it hurt bad. Sorry to hear that about JT. I hope things get better.

Nancy M said...

Bummer about JT, where are all the good guys??? The job thing sucks too, but maybe this will push you into bigger and better things??? Look at the positive. I know easy for me to say, my hours haven't been cut, although we are down in business. The car deer thing....well we have had more than 20 car/deer accidents in 2 days just in this county. So that one you are sharing with several other. Glad to hear you only have to pay the $100 deductible and get a loaner. The bright side of that one is it could have been much worse. You could have been hurt!!! Does that make you feel any better? :-)

Emily said...

Oh, hon I am so sorry. At least you can still drive the car, the job thing sucks, but it will pick back up eventually, maybe get a part time job to pick up the slack. As to JT, well at least his true colors came out before you started making major decisions. (((((((((HUGS))))))))

Kim said...

MAny hugs! You are too nice of a person to put up with crazy! Hope the job situation works out and the car isn't too expensive to fix. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Blu said...

So sorry to hear about all the craziness. Hopefully it's all over and things will look up.
Lots of hugs

Danielle said...

So sorry to hear about JT. It's hard to find a good man, but rest assured he is out there. Things happen for a reason. Luckily, you are a very independent woman who doesn't NEED a man, but just chooses to be with one when it happens.

Shelley said...

Oh Meari I totally believe in things coming in 3s and now that yours are over just take consolence in knowing that you have many friends that are here for you when you need us. As for JT, it's his loss and I am glad you found out sooner than later that he was a sham. I am sorry to hear about your cutback in hours. The positive side, at least you still have a job. Maybe you should put feelers out for another job and who knows something awesome may fall into your lap. Deer, oh deer, at least you weren't hurt.
(((((hugs)))))

Carolyn NC said...

Meari,
I'm so sorry about everything. Hope this #3 will be the end and things will start looking up now. We live in fear of deer around here - they're everywhere, especially this year. Hang in there!

Kathy said...

A huge OUCH about the accident. Poor Bambi. Poor car and poor Meari. :(

Sending you lots of hugs.

Try and think of it this way. You have had your three so only good things are heading your way.

Carolyn said...

Meari,
I am so sorry for all you have been going through. Thank you for letting us know.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that things start to look up for you soon.

I am glad that you are not seriously hurt after hitting the deer.

I don't know if there is anything I can do for you but if there is please email me anytime.
canbnyesatgmaildotcom

{{{HUGS}}}
Carolyn

AFwife99 said...

Sorry to hear about all your ups and downs. Wouldn't it be so much easier if people would just be themselves from the beginning? Hope you get your car taken care of quickly.

Rene la Frog said...

OMG you really have had a rough time. The funny thing is when I started reading your blog the song "Stand By Me" started playing and girlfriend I just want you to know I'm standing beside you with hugs ready any time you need them. Keep you chin up and I know things will get better, they can't keep a good woman down.

Terry said...

So sorry to hear about JT. I was hoping that things were working out so well that you just weren't making any posts about it.

Work issues on top of everything else is no fun especially at this time of year. I wish there was something I could do or say to make things better for you. Please know that you are in our thoughts. Great BIG hugs coming your way!

Chars said...

Big Hugs :) I certainly hope that your *3* spells the end of your run of bad luck.

Shari said...

Hugs to you Meari,
I kind of wondered if there were guy issues, but I didn't want to ask & make the sore subject worse. So sorry about that. And gosh, the job & the car. I hope that your 3 are DONE!!!! Thankfully, cars can be repaired!!

Shelleen said...

You haven't mentioned JT in a while so I have been wondering what was going on. Sorry it didn't work out. I hope that you workload will pick up sometime. Also glad that you didn't get hurt when you hit the deer.

Cindy in MA said...

Meari,
Sorry life has been so crazy for you. Hang in there girl it will get
better.
Cindy in MA

Donna said...

I wondered about JT since you hadn't mentioned it. I was really cheering for it all to be ok.
I am so sorry about the job and the accident. Wish I could do something to help. I can and always do pray though so maybe in some small way I can help.

Vicki in CO said...

Well, all I can say is hopefully you have the '3 things' out of the way and life will get back on an even keel once more. I'm really sorry about your job hours cut and accident! Hang in there my dear, things will get better.

Patricia Cecilia said...

I'll be praying for you and sending {{{{hugs}}}}

CindyMae said...

Meari, I am so sorry things are going not so good right now. I pray that things get better soon. Remember that there are many many other fish in the sea and the right one is out there for you!! So sorry about the job thing but I know that it will work out for you whatever you decide. And Thank God that you accident was not worse and you are ok and that you did not cancel that insurance. Anyway, my thoughts and prayers are with you!!

mbroider said...

Dearest Meari,

Hugs to you, big hugs. I did feel from your posts that something not good was happening, and i kind of guessed the first one coz you had come to not mentioning him. Meari, tell yourself you are lucky to have found out sooner.

Good luck on the job front.

And yes i truly believe, you will always find you way, dear. With those 3s already out, you can now hope for a better new year.

Take care
Sharmila

Gabi said...

When bad luck hits, it seems to come out of all possible corners isn't it? Glad you got yourself out of that relationship, because dealing with crazy people can't bring happiness in life. And you deserve nothing but happiness.
And I wish for you with all my heart that you'll find the solution for your work situation.
Sending you lots of hugs and smiles :)

Sandy In Montana said...

So sorry to hear about all of your troubles, Meari, and hoping and praying that the bad times are behind you. Take care ... Sandy in MT

Mary said...

I am so sorry Meari that things didn't work out with JT but it's good you found out his true colors now instead of later.

I'm sorry to hear about work. If you want to stay at your job, can you pick up a part-time job elsewhere. It's good they gave you a few months warning. Still stinks though.

I'm so glad you are ok with the deer hitting your car. Yes, it bites having to get your car fixed but it would have been worse if you had to get you fixed. I shudder at that thought!

So many hugs to you!!!! I hope things turn around for you. Hugs again!

Ranae said...

So Sorry to hear of the punches you are taking, maybe it's a blessing in diguise.
I hope things get looking better for you.

Becky J said...

Sorry to hear about you and JT. Just remember their is someone out there looking for someone special like you. I hope you don't have to get a part-time job, I'm looking for a full-time one that I can do, and nothing. I cringe at the thought, one day Bambi will do the same to my car, hopefully they don't like white.

5 Foot Runt said...

Hang in there Meari. It will pass as all things do. It will get better.

Diane said...

Sorry to hear about your troubles. I hope things turn around soon.

Re the accident - collision with animals is usually covered under the comprehensive portion of the auto policy, not collision. Check with your agent. A lot of times folks carry a lower comp deductible, so your out of pocket might not even be as much as you expect.

Deb said...

I like the "bumper Sticker" at the end of your posting. It shows you have what they used to call grit. You will find your way, but it sure cna be draining while you are in the midst of it. Hang on, and be sure to practice good self-care. It can be very stressful to have so many things pile on at once.

Erynne said...

I am so sorry to hear of these things happening in your life, Meari. You certainly deserve so much better. (((hugs))).
I guess these are what they call bumps in the road of life but three at one time is so much to deal with!

Hugs again sweetie,
Erynne

~~~Melinda said...

WOW and I thought my getting dtranded in Houston and having to car shop was bad. I thought JT was a goner quite a while back...I know it's difficult but u deserve better!!

Sorry to hear that your concerns about your job were true. Maybe getting student laons and finishing soon would be better in the long run...the iterest rate is low and so are the payments...hey you could always pack up, move to TX, marry me and LU would pay for your school after a year ROFL thought I'd give you a laugh for the day!!!

Sorry to hear about your car! Hope things get better soon!!!

Mylene said...

So sorry to hear of everything...hope things get better soon for you.