Jan 8, 2008

TMI?

The other night, T and I were talking on the phone. Through the course of conversation, we got to talking about stalkers. After he questioned me, I admitted that I had been the victim of a stalker when I was younger (like 18 years ago). I had been stalked for almost two years, and because of that I am very cautious about personal information I give out, and to whom. Also because of this, I have trust issues when it comes to men... Pretty much they have to earn it through actions. I don't blindly believe what they say.

Afterwards, I got a funny feeling that I gave out too much information. Is it wrong to be upfront when asked?

12 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think you were right in being upfront with T. If he wants to have a relationship he needs to understand where you are coming from and this is a major factor in who you are today and why you aren't as trusting as others.

Linda in MA

Terry said...

He asked and you told him the truth. Honesty is the best policy or so they say. I've always believed in it. If he backs off then it's his loss. He's seemed like quite the gentlemen up to now so I'm thinking that he will continue to be there for you.

Barbara said...

Honesty is the best policy. If he has a problem with what you told him, you're better off without him. Best to find out sooner rather than later.
Barb in TX

Chiloe said...

And what if ... is a stakler himself? lol Sorry about the bad joke ...but I find weird he will ask that question. I've never been asked this question ... Where did it come from? Did he watch Dateline or 20/20 lately ??? Just wondering :-p

Michelle-ozark crafter said...

I think you did the right thing! Good for you!

Sharon said...

I don't think it was tmi. I think you were being honest and that's a great thing!

Anonymous said...

I don't think you said too much. He asked & you answered. If he doesn't like it too bad. It is better to be upfront in the beginning of a relationship than to have to try and explain later.
Betty in AZ (ILCS)

Deirdre said...

Honesty is always important in all relationships!

Barbara said...

Just tossing in my 2 cents worth. If he asked, you should answer honestly. You did. Hopefully he's substantial enough not to feel freaked out by "TMI".

Sharon said...

You can't go wrong by being honest. This is another step in his getting-to-know you better. I think making most men earn your trust is a good policy to start with!! (and I'm married to a Mr. Wonderful (most days anyway!!) :)

Julie R said...

I agree with the majority of the comments, he asked and you answered. Better that he knows that info upfront and can work with the issues than to let him fumble around in the dark.

glenda said...

Being upfront in the beginning can save a lot of pain later....

You did the right thing :)