He Wonders Why...

...I am single? Moi, Me? Gee, maybe this will give you and idea WHY.

August 6th, I received the following email from my online dating site:

"i find you to be a well educated ladie with good morals and values from what i have read in your profile and also your very attractive..........just not sure if i may be your type..........i may share the same morals and values as you but i'm more of the rugged type of man meaning i'm muscular very open and forward but i do have that laid back apperance once in awhile but for the most part i'm a exciting type of man......i sure hope you know what i mean because its sure hard to explain about ones self when writing lolol........... Mitch"

OK, now when I read the email, little red flags started flapping in the breeze. Grammar... spelling... "exciting type man", "i hope you know what i mean" What?!... hard to explain about ones self in writing (Umm, it's not THAT hard).

I then clicked on his profile. No photo (another flag). Username: romanticmale62, Age: 37, Location: within 35 miles, -and- wrote in his own words a HALF page about himself that went on and on and on. The "62" at the end of his username also struck me odd because usually people use their birth year and 62 didn't equate to 37yrs old.

In my profile, I have several photographs spanning several years including up-to-date ones. I am also very clear about who and what I am looking for and what I can offer.

With some reservation about this guy, I wrote back and received the following response:

"i realize some ladies on this site say there interested mostly in personalitys and sense of humors but lets not kid ourselfs......more care about looks and just looks at first hoping that they have a sense of humor and personality......heck some ladies could even care less about that hoping that they develope a personality and sense of humor lol.......i realize there has to be some type of attration to draw that person to him or her so you get that chance to know if they have a personality/sense of humor but intodays world its more about material things and being superfical. if you have a email i could send you a few pics ?............i don't have no low self esteem problem or am i insecured.........far from that so i will just send a few pics to you and you can be the judge but i don't want to put you on the spot because of what i just said lol.........`smiles`"

After that I had decided this guy probably wasn't for me and that he more than likely had issues about women not finding him attractive. Even so, I admit I was curious about what he looked like, so I wrote back.

Fast foward to August 20th. I recieved the following email:

if you go to "such-and-such dating site" and search from notintogames62 you will see i have about 14 pics there.............its a free site unlike this one

Again with the "62" which would make him 46/47 yrs old NOT 37. Of course I *had* to go look! LOL He had written (copied) the same written profile. Here's what else I found:

Age: 47 (changed shortly after that to 45), Location: (different city than other site, but close enough to it). All the other info was the same. He also had about 10 photos:



Aye-Aye-Aye! Like I thought, he wasn't my type physically plus factoring in all the other flags I'd noticed (big one: lying). With that, I didn't respond back to him but I recieved an email: "i take it yuo had looked at my pics???"

I took that as my opportunity to let him know I wasn't interested and why. I based my reasons on facts and I was very polite about it. My sister says my downfall is that I'm *too* nice to everyone. Here's the response I got:

"hummmmmmmm,well you sure don't know what the hell your talking about ugly.......i'm not fat you stupid ass whore.......its all muscle.maybe if you worked out enough you would know the dam difference.........so saying i'm fat is like saying your cute......no no no no........you seem like the type that thinks shes all this and that and when it comes down to it your nothing but a old ladie whos single and lonely..........me fat lolol.......do you have a 6 pack?.well i do ugly.........next time don't judge people you fat ass bitch"

First off, I NEVER EVER said he was fat. What I said was that it appeared he was overweight and with the family history of health issues I prefer someone who is somewhat health conscious. I also wished him well in his search. I suppose I could've just not responded, but after finding out he lied about his age (LOL, then calling me an "old ladie"!) and after going on and on about people being superficial, I decided to respond. I just couldn't let it slide. Immediately after receiving the above email, I received a second one:

wow......after rading your email are you serious!!! lolol?..........your not attractive!!............thats why your still single you bitch ............do you have any idea how many ladies i have met that wants to date me lolol........and then when i see your pic i really have to laugh lolol...........seriously....this is the first time i have seen your pic!! lololol

Not sure what all the ...... is about, but he uses them quite a bit. Again, I don't know who this guy thinks he's fooling because every time a person receives an email on the site, the photo (if the person has one) is posted to the left of the email. Not only that, a person can see *who* has looked at their profile and photos. It wasn't the first time he'd seen mine. Not only that, re-read what he wrote in the first sentence of the first email he sent me. Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire! LOL Who is he kidding? IF he was meeting lots of women had LOTS wanting to date him, he WOULDN'T be posting a profile for online dating. Duh.

I wrote him one last email telling him how his communication portrayed the real him and how dishonest he was, how his emails didn't bother me (complete with a smiley face... LOL). Ended it with wishing him luck. LOLOL

Again, he wonders why *I* am single?? Perhaps he should look in his own backyard first.